Leading and agreed control
Decisions, rules, and direction within a BDSM interaction.
An original questionnaire for private reflection. This page explains the topics, how your answers are summarized, and what the research does and does not support.
24-question reflection · September 26, 2026
The eight topics contain different numbers of questions: leading 3, following 3, restraint 2, sensation 4, play 2, context 3, communication 4, and care 3. They organize your responses; they are not established psychological factors.
Decisions, rules, and direction within a BDSM interaction.
Letting a trusted partner direct agreed parts of a BDSM interaction.
Interest in being restrained and in restraining a partner, considered separately.
Different kinds of touch, and giving or receiving chosen pain.
Imagined roles and agreed playful challenges.
How plans, partners, and roles affect what appeals to you.
Ways of expressing wishes, limits, and check-ins.
The care you would like to give, receive, or have space for after BDSM play.
There are 24 questions. The test and quiz links lead to the same questionnaire. There is no time limit and no requirement to have tried any activity.
Choose one of five agreement responses, or select Not sure yet, It depends on the situation, or Prefer to skip. Those three options stay separate from the neutral midpoint.
All questions refer to situations adults freely agree to. Interest is not consent to an activity, and every interaction needs clear boundaries and room to stop.
Your summary starts with a description of your answers about making or handing over agreed decisions. It then shows examples of interests, lower interests, and open questions. Open each topic to see the original answers and their explanations.
Each statement keeps its own meaning. For example, offering care and receiving care can have different answers. They are not averaged into a care score. No answer adds or subtracts points from another topic.
Descriptions follow fixed rules in your browser: agreement is described as interest, disagreement as lower interest, and neutral, unsure, contextual, and skipped answers stay distinct. Highlights follow a fixed topic order, not a strength ranking. Reflection prompts adapt to the responses inside the topic details. No AI service receives your answers.
An earlier version used 41 questions, weighted scores, and a closest-profile match. Its scores were not scientifically validated. The current summary does not reuse that scoring model or convert earlier results, including the first 24-question draft. Revised questions require fresh answers.
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These are original questions, not items copied or adapted from a validated scale. The current questionnaire has not undergone independent expert review, user validation, factor analysis, or reliability testing. It is a self-reflection tool for adults, not a psychological assessment.
The Kink Orientation Scale studies engagement, identity, and related topics including sexual communication. The Sadomasochism Checklist studies attraction to and participation in practices, separating dominant and submissive directions. These studies inform some topic choices; neither validates this questionnaire or its eight-topic structure.
Restraint, role play, plans, context, and care are editorial topics included for reflection. The topic coverage, wording, number of items, and rules for summaries are product design decisions, not validated dimensions or an optimal question count.
The scale-development guidance by Boateng and colleagues supports defining concepts, reviewing content, interviewing users about how they understand questions, and empirical testing. Referencing that process does not mean this questionnaire has completed it.
Wignall, L., McCormack, M., Carpino, T., Owens, R., & Barton, T. The Kink Orientation Scale (published online 2024; journal issue 2025). DOI: 10.1080/00224499.2024.2387769.
Weierstall, R., & Giebel, G. The Sadomasochism Checklist (published online 2016; journal issue 2017). DOI: 10.1007/s10508-016-0789-0.
Boateng, G. O., et al. (2018). Best Practices for Developing and Validating Scales for Health, Social, and Behavioral Research: A Primer. DOI: 10.3389/fpubh.2018.00149.
No. Some topics have relevant research references, but these original questions and the eight-topic structure have not been scientifically validated.
The 24 questions cover distinct aspects of roles, restraint, sensations, play, context, communication, and care. Topics have two to four questions each. This is a design choice, not a proven optimal length.
Yes. The two topics are described independently. Agreeing with both is not treated as a contradiction.
Choose Not sure yet, It depends on the situation, or Prefer to skip. These answers are shown directly and do not become a neutral score.
No. Both lead to the same 24-question reflection.
The methodology makes most sense when it connects directly to the experience it describes.
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